Young People's Group

BUILDING FRIENDSHIPS THAT LAST

by Pastor Mitch
May 29, 2005

Seeking To Build Strong Friendships

Friendships are customarily based on common interests. There are those who like to go out for movies. There are others who like to play computer games together. There are still others who like to go shopping. And soon, friendships are formed around such concerns. However, such friendships do not go beyond a certain level. They often do not last. If we want to build strong and long-lasting friendships, we must develop them on the solid foundation of God’s word. The book of Proverbs teaches us Biblical principles of friendship that enable us to cultivate significant bonds with one another.

Building On Solid Principles Of Friendships

How can we go about doing this?

1. Learning To Love At All Times

“A friend loves at all times,
And a brother is born for adversity.”
Proverbs 17:17

The basis of a strong friendship should always be one that is built on Christian love. When we have real love for each other, we will be able to love at all times. Even in times of adversity, that friend will continue to love and care.

2. Learning To Be Loyal To Each Other

“But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Proverbs 18:24

Friendship should also be based on a deep sense of loyalty. We must learn what it means to stick with each other through the happiest and the toughest of times. It is easy for people to be friends with one who is doing well. However, not every person will want to be there for one who is down and out. Let’s learn to have a sense of loyalty to each other.

3. Learning To Be Pure And Gracious In The Way We Relate

“He who loves purity of heart
And has grace on his lips,
The king will be his friend.”
Proverbs. 22:11

Having a heart of purity and graciousness is also important in a friendship. We need to learn how to have wholesomeness and integrity of heart when it comes to relating to each other, especially with friends of the opposite sex. We must also learn to be gracious in the words we say to each other. Let’s not be judgmental. When we have purity and graciousness, even great leaders will want to be friends.

4. Learning To Help Each Other Cultivate Character

“As iron sharpens iron,
So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.”
Proverbs 27:17

During the days of King Solomon, an iron sharpening tool was used to sharpen swords so that they can cut easily. In the same way, friends can help each other grow and cultivate their life and character. Through good advice and gracious admonishing, friends can help each other be noble, faithful and wise. They can help each other grow in faith. So much so, that it would show on their faces. Young people, let’s learn to cultivate good and solid friendships based on these principles. Let’s learn what it means to be a true friend.

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