Young Adults' Group

God’s Will In Our Relationships

by Pastor Mark
March 18, 2021

Understanding God’s will in marriage

As we consider the will of God in our lives, I would like to share with you how I see the will of God in marriage. Whether it is about finding someone or being in a marriage, we should understand the will of God in our lives. This is vital as marriage is going to affect the rest of our lives.

Determining the will of God

What were some of the things that helped me to determine God’s will in marriage?

1. The Word of God

One key thing is the Word of God. The Word of God determines the will of God. The Lord Jesus understood all that was written of Him in the Scriptures, and He came to do them as the will of God (Heb 10:7). The Word of God should guide us in our understanding of what a relationship or marriage should be like: one that fits into the will of God. One example is to have a foundation that is built on the Word of God. Whether as individuals or a couple, our foundation should be the same. It is crucial that we build a relationship that has a common foundation. If there is no common foundation, it is hard to build a relationship according to God’s will. Let us appreciate the Word of God as His will.

 2. Prayer

Another aspect is to consider in prayer. It is through prayer that we are enlightened to the will of God (Eph 1:17,18). I remember praying for someone who would serve alongside me in the full-time ministry. The first thing that I prayed for was the person to have a deep love for God (Deu 6:5). I also prayed for the person to have a desire to serve the Lord, among other things. Graciously, the Lord provided Chen Kee, who became my wife. Prayer continues to be very much part of our lives in determining God’s will for us.

3. Wise counsel

Wise counsel is crucial in helping us determine God’s will for us. At times, we may not have all the wisdom we need to make a good decision. I thank God for Pastor Charles’ counsel and guidance in providing wisdom to Chen Kee and me from the beginning of our relationship until now. When we have good and wise counsel, our plans would be better established (Prov 15:22).

4. Love and support

God’s will for a couple is to love each other no matter what (1 Cor 13:4–7). In the beginning, we may have love. The challenge is whether we would love each other many years later. Many grow out of love all too soon. I thank God for the love that I share with Chen Kee. When Chen Kee had her heart attack, I was there for her. Recently, during my dad’s passing and my mom’s hospitalisation, Chen Kee was a tremendous support. The love that we have continues to grow amidst the challenges of life.

5. Greatly blessed

This year, Chen Kee and I have been married for 20 years. As I look back over the years, I thank God for His great blessings upon our lives. I see the will of God unfolding in our lives. We continue to find joy in our marriage as we live and serve the Lord together. Let us seek to understand and submit to the will of God in relationship and marriage.

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